Notice that the Heart Line is curved up well under the index finger. This person enters a relationship with a lot of self-assurance knowing that they are worth much to the partner.
They use their index finger frequently to point and gesture to emphasize their strong personal intentions. Of all the fingers, the index finger is used most strongly to express personal power. And the Nurturer uses it a lot! Some other types may appear "bossy" with this index finger mannerism, but for the Nurturer this is normal. In palmistry, the curved long Heart Line ending near the base of the index finger indicates personal power is used a lot and mostly in improving relationships.
In a relationship, Nurturer types are very giving, nurturing, and tend to satisfy the needs of the mate before their needs. In the field of psychology, they often are classified as co-dependent. The real truth, according to palmistry, is that they are dreamers and visionaries who see themselves as natural caregivers. They have a lot to give others and do so willingly.
People with a Nurturer Heart Line go into all relationships giving everything they have. And they never say that anything is expected in return. However, she or he assumes that something equal will be returned. This is natural because they are idealists!
But here is the problem: The type of partner the Nurturer attracts is usually the opposite type - a "taker" and "user". So at some point in the relationship the Nurturer starts feeling resentful and "used". Also the Nurturer's partner no longer gets what she or he has grown to expect, so is dissatisfied, too. So guess what: The relationship is over.
Nurturer types should try to understand their own psychological needs for getting love. Their safest way to operate in life is to make agreements to get their needs met. Very early in the relationship Nurturers need to say clearly that (1) they are givers, and (2) what and how much they want to give to the relationship. Then they (3) must say what it is they expect in return. The last step (4) is to ask the partner if she or he is willing to give back what is desired.
This agreement need not be on paper and can be terminated at any time. However, some form of an agreement or understanding is important to prevent the Nurturer from frequently feeling ripped off and used.
The important thing for the nurturer to understand is this:
The Nurturer should learn to love self enough to feel OK about asking for what is wanted, and be able to receive it without guilt. She or he needs to know that it is not necessary to give 150% in a relationship in order to get acceptance and love.
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